Are difficult people following you everywhere you go?

Wher­ev­er you go, you will always deal with dif­fi­cult peo­ple.

Always.

Many of us buy into the myth that at anoth­er job, in anoth­er orga­ni­za­tion, things would be so much eas­i­er.

The truth is there will be dif­fi­cult peo­ple there, too. But we don’t let our­selves believe that.

We buy into a myth that it can’t be like this at Dis­ney, or Apple, or Pixar.

You don’t want to believe that dif­fi­cult peo­ple is actu­al­ly the same thing as “peo­ple.”

You don’t want to believe there are dif­fi­cult peo­ple every­where because you want an excuse. You’d love to leave where you are now. So why don’t you? If it’s that bad, then you should get out of there.

Except, you know deep down that you could do some­thing. Except you don’t want to put the time into fig­ur­ing out the dynam­ics of how to sur­vive where you are now. You don’t want to lead.

That’s ok. If you don’t want to step up and lead, then you’re stuck. But here is your new rule: you can’t com­plain.

Com­plain­ing means you don’t want to be the one to solve the prob­lem. You can solve your prob­lem by mov­ing to a new job, set­ting appro­pri­ate bound­aries, and to lev­el up.

You can solve your prob­lem by set­ting the expec­ta­tions for what you can tol­er­ate and what you can’t. You can solve your prob­lem by tak­ing 5 min­utes to have a con­ver­sa­tion that will give you so the peace of mind you need. You can solve your prob­lem by tak­ing a moment to pause, reflect, and respond.

Lead­ers don’t react, they respond. Just like your body responds to good med­i­cine (see Hen­ry Cloud’s Bound­aries).

Lead­ers solve prob­lems. The prob­lem you’re in right now can be solved — and it starts with you.